Join us for Pajamas, Popcorn, and Porn on March 11, 2017 from 5-730pm at's Armory in San Francisco, CA! 

Here's the official workshop description: 

he smorgasbord of internet erotica may leave us intrigued and ready for action, but have you ever wondered what keeps your porn consumption a private party for one?

When examining our identities, interests, and arousal, exploration is often halted by shame and stigma. In this workshop we’ll work to defeat these internal monsters. We’ll move from the repression of silence towards a more liberated and fulfilling format of self-exploration, communication, and interactions.

Call your partner(s), and text your friends! We’ll provide the popcorn and set up a safe and comfortable space to watch and discuss some of our favorite “sexy cinema!” You’ll leave this workshop with a better understanding of the adult industry, your own erotic viewing preferences, and real life tools to bring your sexual viewing preferences into your conversations (in and outside of the bedroom). We’ll also be showing an exclusive clip from Lilith Luxe's REAL FUCKING DOC, which is a unique companion piece to Mona Wales' directorial debut, REAL FUCKING GIRLS, and offers a behind-the-scenes look at how the movie was made from the performers themselves. REAL FUCKING GIRLS recently won at both AVN and XBIZ for Trans Release of the Year. 

The first 25 people/couples to register will receive a free copy of REAL FUCKING GIRLS, signed by the director herself, Mona Wales!

We've presented several incarnations of our Clearing the Cache/Cache Confidence workshop at the Contemporary Relationships Conference, the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, and as part of Kink's educational track (in March 2017).

Want us to present at your event? This workshop can be modified to fit your specific audience and preferred workshop format. For more information, hit us up at our contact page

Below is a general summary of our workshop: 

Clearing the Cache: Demystifying and Destigmatizing the Consumption of Pornography in Contemporary Relationships
presented by Traci Medeiros-Bagan & Kristel Penn

There is a lot of work done around the problematic nature of pornography: how it represents our sexuality, what the acceptable amount (if any) it’s okay to consume, and the politics of the industry itself. Even the most sex positive of individuals, couples, and providers may find themselves a bit shy when it comes to our own personal browser histories. Still, the numbers remain the same. The industry continues to boom. There is a lot of porn being watched and not always by the demographic you might think. So why is there so much shame around it? If we’re all doing it, why can’t we talk about it? Is it possible that breaking the silence around the consumption of commodified sexuality might also shed some light on our most private pieces of identities and relationships?

Note: We’ll be showing an excerpt from the behind the scenes documentary called "Real Fucking Doc" directed by Lilith Lux, which serves as a companion piece to Mona Wales' directorial debut, "Real Fucking Girls."


-Start the discussion around destigmatizing and demystifying our culture’s consumption of pornography.

-Create a basis for the consideration that there are ways the consumption of pornography may have value and empowerment properties for the individual and the relationship.

-Give some recommendations on how to open up communication about what we are drawn to, why, and how it can increase intimacy and self-awareness.